By Rick Clemons for YourTango. Michael Sam made headline news when he shared a celebratory kiss with his boyfriend after hearing that he was joining the St. Louis Rams. With the rise in openly gay athletes participating in professional sports, many people are wondering if gay athletes are more or less prone to check out other athletes in the locker room.
I’m afraid my girlfriend will find out.
We talked to the experts — and the locker-room nudists themselves. It's not as cut-and-dry as you'd think. Daniel became desensitized to nudity when he joined the Marines at I just lost the shame we build around our bodies when I realized that nobody cared and a body is just a body. Those old naked guys in the public locker room may be a dying breed. And because the shift is happening, more people are expecting to have many of these options available to them when they join a club. So where did this generational divide come from, and is it really as stark as it seems? We talked to the experts — and locker-room nudists themselves — to find out.
Space can get really tight—recently, it was so crowded that a man who was crouching down to get his stuff out of one of the lower lockers squatted his butt on my water bottle that was sitting at the edge of the bench. Sometimes a particularly good-natured patron will remark on how it always seems that you return to your locker at the same time that a person using an adjacent locker to yours does, no matter how empty or crowded the locker room is. But maybe also there is something to general rules of space-filling yielding to clusters of people who roughly enter and exit the gym at the same time. If he were smart, he would have slapped me with his workout glove for effect, but he just seemed like an idiot. I took their non-responsiveness as embarrassment for him. Maybe I was just imposing empathy, because I was embarrassed for him. Another guy with a godlike physique and prominent bald spot that, much to my surprise, only made him hotter, talked about his ex-wife of six years to the gym employee that was picking up towels from the floor I assumed they were friends, but really, they might have been total strangers.
I think you need to sit down and have a conversation with him about all of this, because that's truly the only way to get to the bottom of it and make a decision for yourself. You cannot do his job. From her summary, he just did not understand her dilemma at all. Consider yourself above many things. There are many great and wonderful people in the church, and the real evil about the church is that it harms those great and wonderful people. But is it the path that will make you the happiest.